I am a big heaping mess. I say that with all the love, affection and regard that I have for myself. I’m the type to spill food on my lap while eating with gutso. I trip and stumble all of the time. I get strange and unidentifiable stains on my clothes. I scuff my heels. The list goes on. But today ladies and maybe a gentleman. Today, I look like a lady.
It’s been a while, but Mai highlight of the week is the snow day that MA got on Friday. Woohoo. I was tucked in my bed all weekend. No comment on the fact that my car is still buried.
The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them” -Weesha’s World
Most of my blog looks are what I wear to work aka I really don’t have much of a social life so it’s either work looks or no looks. I was scheduled to attend a friend’s birthday party. Although I was so incredibly late that I missed the whole shindig, this was my makeup look. I didn’t get a good shot of the outfit. It wasn’t anything fancy, just a white T, wide leg denim and some heels.
I really like this over the top look. I usually only do a done up eye or lip, never both. Now that I’ve crossed over to the dark side, I’m not sure if I’ll be coming back.
Don’t mind the extra serious doe eyes. I’m always super cheesy but I wanted to show the look not my not so pearly whites.
Eyes: Urban Decay New York set; Lips: Wet & Wild lipstick
Well look what we have here. I’m wearing burgundy/maroon/oxblood again. Whenever I notice myself drawn to a particular color, I toy with the idea of making a week of it. My attention span is way too short for that sort of commitment, so you’ll just have to settle for these shots.
Oh the joy of trying to be cute during wintertime in the Northeast. It is a very real challenge my friends. I am some one that will pick warmth over style 8/10. I am also a fan of layering. Not the cute just right kind either. Oh no, my layering consists of bulkiness and comfy boots with thick socks. I am working on it though and it helps that I am no longer a pedestrian.
I am a lover. I enjoy the quiet moments where he and I are just being. Our breaths are in sync and our minds are in tune. I like to express my love to mine by telling him how great he is and by making myself available to him and filling him up on my abundant energy. I love how I’d like to be loved but unfortunately life has a way of letting me know that it really isn’t about me (can you believe that?). Of course if I love how I’d like to be loved then in return he loves how he wants to be loved. Sounds fine and dandy right? Well it’s great unless you both do not love the same way. Then the conflict arises because if he’s not supporting me how I’d like to be supported and if he’s not telling me that I can conquer the world and if he’s not nourishing my spirit and feeding my soul then I don’t feel the love that I need. Now hold on, don’t start saying to yourself “Marie, you are too picky, too demanding, you require too much”. There is some truth to what I’m saying. It’s called 5 Love Languages. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 love languages. We all express our love in different ways, and how we love others is often how we want to be loved in return. The 5 languages are quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service and receiving gifts. Check out the website for more information on each love language and take a quiz to find out which love language you speak. Even before taking the quiz, I was sure that my primary language was words of affirmation. I need to hear that I am doing well, that I’m enough, that I’m capable, loveable and that it may hurt now, but I will get through it. That is how I know you’re in my corner and that I am loved. I also knew that it’s important and vital (in all of my relationships) for me to spend quality time with my partner. I’m a bit of a know it all fyi. Learning about the 5 love languages was such a huge breakthrough for me. Everything clicked, and I got a better understanding of my previous relationships. Why we didn’t work out, what I needed to do to become a better me and what I needed to let go of. So run, don’t walk to your nearest computer and read about the love languages, take the quiz and talk to your partner and hopefully things will make more sense for you. I’ve been telling everyone and their supervisor about the 5 love languages.
Which love language do you think you speak?
For some reason I just can’t get away from plaid. I love plaid. I blame it on my many years as a Catholic school girl. I wore a plaid burgundy skirt that I always rolled up (don’t ask me why, we all did it even though it was an all girls school). While burning a hole through my pocket in my town’s pitiful excuse of a mall I stumbled upon this shawl. I actually spied it while going down the escalator 5 minutes before Sears closed. As soon as I put it on, I felt fancy! This baby was coming home with me.
I currently volunteer as a conversation partner. Fancy title huh? I basically converse and do activities with ESL students in the hopes of helping them acclimate to American culture and learn the language. I have two partners, one from Taiwan the other from South Korea. Both are very nice young ladies who I look forward to learning more about. We went to brunch at Masa on Sunday. I’ve been to Masa numerous times for tapas, but I’d never been there for brunch. They have a prixe fixe menu and that’s what we ordered from. Our starters included cornbread and another kind of bread with an assortment of spreads, jellies and jams. One even had jalapenos, quite tasty. Continue reading